I think your critique of my post and your response to my comment says so much more about where you are than where I am. I think your feeling of being stuck at the gate doing a double shift of guard duty says more about your need to police than my need or desire to be policed.

While I agree with you that sometimes guys, and I proudly count myself as part of that heathen tribe, will not always see a woman as a “complete holistic being”; I think women sometimes don’t know how to take a compliment.

Tell me you and a girlfriend have never engaged in “appraising”, “idle chatter” about some hot guy’s body?

As for my being “unable” to find women to talk to about kinky sex … I guess I just must be looking for love in all the wrong places.

Maybe I should go to “responsible adult” school?

Ok I’ll take your point regarding yours being a kinky sex blog. However with regard to men needing women to “slap us around and remind us to make eye contact,” this ties into exactly the kind of woman-as-gatekeeper mindset that also results in you being unable to find women who openly talk about kink (or sex of any kind). Furthermore, I expect the people I interact with to, well, act like responsible adults — I shouldn’t have to correct anyone’s behavior unless they are under the age of 10.

Not to get all defensive about my post, but it is a “kinky sex” blog. Mostly, I figure for the genre I’m waaay tame and talk about loads of stuff not particularly kinky. I mean, I’m not freakin’ writing about real estate over here.

Actually, almost to a fault, I’m a guy who is friends with women - their entire package.

What struck me about Ms. Broker was not whether she was secretly dommy, but that she had seemed to come out to me - and seemed interested in me.

I do think I mentioned how smart and competent she seemed to be, rather than how I thought she’d look in Louboutins and back seamed stockings.

You and I are of significantly different generations and social groups. Perhaps for you an actual flirtation that might be kinky is not so rare. But I gotta tell you that in my life it has been rare indeed for a woman to reveal even a hint of real kink to me.

And if I may, as I recall, it was your writing I was attracted to, not whether you might like this or that pervy past time.

What’s offensive? That I thought it was hot she said had some outfits she’d like to dress me up in? Face it, most guys minds are partly in the gutter. That’s why we need you all to slap us around and remind us to make eye contact.

Oy…if I can’t think what she said is hot then call the PC police and drag me away.